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The ‘I HAVE To’ List

I’ve experimented with a tonne of productivity tools and processes. I’ve taken deep dives with each of the following programs:

And what I’ve found is that there are some common concepts that are shared between them. Each of them implements their own unique strategy towards concepts like prioritization, organization, and execution. They each have their own twist or approach to tackling your to do lists, your dreams, your goals, and life all around.

But for some reason, none of these systems really made things better for me. I noticed that I was busier but I wasn’t really better. I started to notice each system had it’s own little flaw that always seemed to suck all the life out of the process and before long I’d had abandoned it. The Burnout was real…

I do think that they are each worth learning about and attempting. I see each of these systems as a small stepping stone in my pursuit of accomplishment and I don’t discredit them. However, they haven’t (or I haven’t) improved my life with any of these strategies.

So I invented my own… and I call it the “I HAVE To…” list.


You see the problem I kept running into with each of these systems was that I would always end up getting them over-loaded. Some systems ask you to capture all your thoughts and organize them into quadrants or process each item and prioritize it. Backlog items that aren’t important and break down tasks that are bigger.

For me though, not only did I have all of the normal stuff to do like my goals, and tasks, but I had an enormous amount of day-to-day shit that I needed to get done. Dishes, dinner, cold lunches, homework, sports, diapers, practices, tests, doctor visits, home repairs, and the list goes on…

I would be forced to either try to keep up on all of these items in my head or write them all down into the system. Then I would have to organize them, prioritize them, backlog them, break the bigger ones down… and damn was it time consuming.

I decided that maybe these strategies just weren’t meant for me and I set out on researching how other, already successful people manage their lives. I’m not talking successful people that are just working a great job and appear successful on social media. No, I’m talking full blown, massively successful people like Arnold Schwarzenegger (5x Mr Universe, 7x Mr. Olympia, numerous Hollywood Blockbusters, and Governor of California), Dwayne Johnson (won the NCAA Championship, 20 year WWE career and became known as, “The Rock”, wrote a #1 Best Seller as voted by the New York Times, Hollywood movies, and the recent purchase of the XFL), and Elon Musk (founded PayPal, founded SpaceX, became CEO of Tesla, revolutionized electric vehicles, and launched rockets into space).

And I started researching how these guys go about their lives. How they operate on a daily bases to reach these audacious achievements. What I found was that they all had one major difference in the way they approached their lives on a regular basis. While the rest of us are sitting around saying, “I should workout, I should eat better, I should quit smoking, I should spend more time with my kids, I should, I should, I should…

But these guys, they don’t say anything like that. These guys are so driven, so motivated and focused, that when they talk about their days, they don’t say anything close to what we say. They say things like, “I HAVE to get my workout in, I HAVE to stick to this diet, I HAVE to design this product, I HAVE to build this vehicle, I HAVE to spend time with my family, I HAVE to, I HAVE to, I HAVE to.”


And the reason they feel that way, the reason they say that they, “HAVE” to do something is because they have powerful “WHY’s” and they repeat them to themselves every single day, over-and-over. So I took this concept and I laid it out for my goals. I figured out what I really wanted and what my “Why” was. Then I took each of my Goals and Why’s and I wrote my “I HAVE To” list.

This “I HAVE To” list works just like a normal to do list except it represents what you absolutely HAVE to do on this day to achieve your goal. If you can’t get these items checked off then you need to rethink your goal or rethink your WHY. This list contains only items from your Goals and you HAVE to do each item. If anything gets completed today, it HAS GOT TO BE THESE ITEMS ON THIS LIST.

I sit down each night, just before bed, look at my Goals, read over my Why’s, and write my “I HAVE To…” list. If you’ve been struggling with productivity or found that some of the more popular programs haven’t worked for you. I challenge you to give the, “I HAVE To…” list a try and let me know how it works for you!


Find Your Why. Repeat your Why.

Why is it that accomplishing our goals and the things we know that we should do, so damn hard?

I’ve wrestled with motivation at various stages in my life. I’ve been on both extremes of the spectrum from highly motivated and engaged to “I don’t feel like doing shit today…

You see, Motivation works very much like a roller coaster and when you’re up, it’s great, but when you’re down… well it’s not so great. The problem with motivation is this roller coaster ride. It’s also the reason it’s so hard to stick to our diets, quit smoking, learn that new habit, or accomplish anything that requires great or consistent effort.

We’re constantly subjective to this wave of motivation and until we can make a change in this area, we’ll always be influenced by it. Motivation helps us get that new diet started but when things get harder, when temptation kicks in, when the workout gets tougher, that same motivation doesn’t ever seem to be enough to push us through.

And that’s exactly where our problem lies. You see our Motivation, when it first inspires us, is so strong that it’s enough to get us to initiate a change in our lives. It’s the upward ride of the roller coaster.

Maybe we had a moment where we felt unattractive with our weight or we felt guilty for not spending time with someone we love. Whatever it was, it was powerful and that motivation drove us to start that process of change…

And then after a while… a couple of days… a couple of hours… we lose that motivation. It fades away and with it goes our ability to make a change. And then the next hurdle comes in journey of change and now we don’t have nearly enough motivation to overcome this adversity.

So how do other people do it? How do great athletes do it? How do successful actors and musicians accomplish so much? How does that blogger on Instagram get up everyday and hit the gym?

Their secret, the reason they are able to overcome that next hurdle, is that they keep their motivation so high that they never ride the downward side of the roller coaster. When they step onto the road to change, for them, the ride is always up.

At first it seems hard to understand how they do this. How do they keep their motivation up? How do they keep it from coming down and avoid that roller coaster?

They have an enormous WHY. What do I mean by this? They have a situation, in their lives, a moment, a history, that is so impactful, so motivating for them, that they are able to stay at the top of their game day-after-day.

Arnold Schwarzenegger, Jim Carrey, Inquoris Johnson, Marshall Mathers, Mike Tyson… the list goes on and on and on. Each of these people are highly motivated, Extremely Motivated in their lives and the reason why is because they had difficult, rough lives first.

These challenges gave them a reason to push back and to push harder and for them, it wasn’t a roller coaster. It never was a roller coaster because everyday when they woke up, life was hard. Their motivation was right there in their faces and they had no choice but to live it. So when they grew up, they were raised in an environment that demanded they stay highly motivated to ever have a chance to survive.

How do the rest of us tap into this? How do we capture this level of motivation when not all of us are going to come from a rough background. How do we find that same motivation? The best way to do this is to answer this one simple question… Why?

Why do you want to accomplish what you are setting out to do? Why does it matter at all? Why do you care? Why, Why, Why, WHY?

And answer this question multiple times, every day. Don’t just think of one reason why. Write down your reasons why. Write down four, five, ten reasons why you want to what you want to do and then as life changes, as you grow, add to your list of why. Remove things that no longer motivate you from your list of why and replace them with new motivators.

And once you have your why’s the next step is to put them on repeat in your life. Make it so that every day, every morning, every evening, every night, you look at this list of why’s. Just like Arnold Schwarzenegger, Jim Carrey, Inquoris Johnson, Marshall Mathers, and Mike Tyson had to wake up everyday and live their reasons why, you should be doing the same.

Find your WHY. Repeat your WHY.

Progressive Pomodoro’s

If you’re not familiar with Pomodoro’s it’s a simple concept of working for small chunks of time and then taking short breaks. The idea is to maximize your focus and optimize productivity by allowing your mind to ‘get in the zone’ for a brief period of time and then taking a short break to recharge.

There’s a ton of information out there on Pomodoro’s and how to use them: What is a Pomodoro?

In practice, I’ve found pomodoro’s work best when I’m already highly motivated. When I’m feeling great and ready to go, a 25 minute pomodoro is a good chunk of time for me to knock out some solid work.

But what happens when I’m not feeling great? What happens when I’m not on top of things? What happens when the task I’m looking at is dull and boring or when the task requires a higher level of effort to complete than my normal day-to-day? When a 25 minute pomodoro seems impossible…

I could try forcing myself to work through a half-assed pomodoro doing subpar work or I could complete a Progressive Pomodoro. A Progressive Pomodoro works like a regular pomodoro except instead of starting at 25 minutes, I start at 1 minute.

1 minute of work.

1 tiny insignificant minute of work.

This one minute is usually opening my tool of choice, reading a single email, reviewing my next action, starting the research into the task I need to accomplish. It’s just a small insignificant piece of work that I can’t say no to completing.

And then when that minute is up, I take a 1 minute break. I read an article, check my social media, or just go get a drink. It’s my 1 minute break so I do whatever I feel like doing. After that break, I take on 2 minutes of work.

2 tiny insignificant minutes of work…

Then I take a 1 minute break and after that I take on 3 minutes of work.

3 tiny insignificant minutes of work…

And I repeat this process over-and-over until I’ve either completed my task or reached a point when I start to feel like the next chunk of work is too much to accomplish. At this point, I hit the reset button. I go back to square one, back to…

1 tiny insignificant minute of work…

Welcome to The Hardest Work

I’ve recently become motivated to share my journey through life, my experiences, my failures, and my successes in hopes to inspire others as I’ve been inspired.

Since this is my first post I’m still working out the details of setting up this blog. I’m hoping to cover a wide variety of content and topics including:

  • Productivity
  • Motivation
  • Parenting
  • Programming
  • Fitness
  • and More!

I don’t have a set plan yet but I hope to share as much as I’ve learned about various topics and that readers of this blog can share their experiences back with me.

If you have suggestions for content or topics you’d like to hear about please let me know!