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Should You Have One Big Goal?

Having one big goal. One big target for what you’re after in life. A dream.

That’s what it’s all about. Time after time we see athletes and musicians have one big dream to grow up and make it big. They have this one dream, their life is all about it, and they are 100% focused on this one thing to make it big.

And the rest of us try to follow suit. We try to have just one big dream, well and then the other demands in life, school, work, family, social responsibilities. They all seem to be getting in the way of our one big dream, yet these other athletes and musicians don’t seem to have that problem? Why not?

The reason why not is actually quite simple. This idea of having one big goal and one big dream and only that one dream…. IS…. A…. LIE….

Let it soak in for minute….

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This idea that you have this big target you’re aiming for and that’s the only thing that you’re about is a trick. It’s something that’s used to sell self-help books to millions of people that still can’t manage to achieve their goals. Funny how so many books are sold yet so few people don’t achieve their dreams. Don’t feel bad, I was one of those people.

David Goggins once said he had an NFL player reach out to him and ask, “How do you keep that dog mentality. Once I got to the NFL I’ve struggled to keep the fight in me” and David responded by pointing out that the person had a finish line in their mind.

Basically they had this one big goal and once they reached it, their dream was over. They’d crossed the finish line and now realized they didn’t know what do with themselves anymore.

photo cred: Adi Goldstein

This is the problem with one big dream or one big goal. Even if you manage to achieve it, once you do, you’re left wondering what to do next. The drive that existed on the journey is no longer there at the finish line.

So here’s the thing, life is a lot longer than most of us realize. What good does it do to drive hard for 10 years to spend the next 30 unsatisfied?

And even if you could focus in on your one big goal and drive it all the way to completion you’d suddenly realize that you now have nothing left to look forward to. You would have built your whole life on one thing and one thing only. And let me tell you about how life likes to take dreams that you have and shove them in your face.

Don’t back yourself into a corner on a single dream because that’s what you see in a Nike commercial. There is enough time in life to do it ALL. I promise you. Life is long and there is a ton of time to do things.

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So my advice is to go out and set multiple dreams. If you want to be a musician great! Go practice every day. Then think of what else you want to be. What other hobbies do you have? What other responsibilities do you already have? Play any sports? Great go work at being great at that too. Spread your dreams out and work towards all of them.

Quit putting all of your chips into a single bet because that’s what the media has been telling you to do.

Go live a full life and DO IT ALL!

If you’re not doing something different every day, you’re wasting your life.

You’re Going to Get Punched in the Mouth

It’s a fact of life.

There are going to be times when life is going to knock you down. There are going to be bad days, off days, down days, and rain days. For some of us it’s once in a while and for others it’s every. single. day.

Sometimes it happens when we feel like we’re on top and sometimes it happens when we’re already down. Sometimes it comes from complete strangers and sometimes it comes from those that are already close to us…

What I’ve learned is that the more you try to put yourself out there, the more you try to do, the more you try to better yourself…

The more that punches are going to come your way… the more snide comments you’ll hear… the more people will talk shit about you… the more questions you’ll get about why you’re doing what you’re doing…

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“Everybody has a plan, until they get punched in the mouth.”

~ Mike Tyson

And like Big Mike says… what’s your plan after you’ve been punched in the mouth?

Mike wasn’t saying that because you’ve been punched your plan is lost. Mike was asking what your plan was after you’ve been punched? What’s your plan for how you’re going to respond when life punches you in the mouth?

The lack of a plan is why a lot of people struggle to be Closers. People have no problem starting something. Starting a workout routine, starting a marriage, starting a blog, starting a project… but then they get punched in the mouth and they’re ready to step out.

They flat out back down.

They’re no longer the person they said they were when they said this is what they were all about.

It happens so often, so much, it literally plagues millions of people around the world. As soon as something gets tough… as soon as it doesn’t go exactly the way someone pictured it… they quit.

So here’s the trick to coming back after getting punched in the mouth. You have to have a plan. You have to have a plan for how you are going to respond when you get punched. And here’s the thing you can do to plan for when that punch is going to come and how to respond to it.

Stand up and say Fuck ’em

Mike Tyson is not one of the greatest boxers of all time because of a highlight tape. He’s not one of the best just because he could throw a big punch. He didn’t make it to the top because he could beat anyone’s ass (even though he probably could).

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Mike went to the top because when he got punched, he stood back up, and he said Fuck that Noise. He didn’t quit or bitch out because the fight got tough. In fact he did the exact opposite. He came back and fought even harder.

That one aspect of Mike’s attitude got him to the top. Without it… if Mike had said, “man I really don’t like getting punched” he would never have made it anywhere in his life.

photo cred: Louis Smit

So the next time life punches you in the mouth… the next time life shits on you… the next time someone tries to bring you down…. stand back up… say Fuck it and go back out there and keep working at what you want to achieve.

If you missed your work out this morning, go do it tonight. If someone said something that made you feel bad, go prove them wrong. If someone tried to tear you down, go stand even taller.

Be ready to take your punches and then be ready to say Fuck ’em and come back even harder.