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Today

Often times we want to start up a new project, a new endeavor, a new workout, a new diet, or a new goal because somewhere, something gave us some great motivation. And we get all excited about it and then we say ‘Tomorrow‘ I’m going to start.

Tomorrow I’m going to suddenly change and become this new person. Tomorrow… tomorrow… tomorrow…

It’s always something that’s going to happen. “Tomorrow it’ll happen because I’ll be ready.” “Tomorrow I’ll wake up early” or “Tomorrow I’ll have all of my stars aligned and then I’ll be able to make it happen.” Tomorrow… later… not today….

There’s an old saying in professional sports and it goes something like this:

You’re only ever as good as your last game.

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What this means is that it doesn’t matter what you did yesterday or what you’re going to do tomorrow. What you’ve already done or what you say you’ll do doesn’t win championships. The past nor the future make any difference about who you are. What matters, what defines who you are, is what you’ve done today.

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What have you done today? What have you done today to reach that dream? What work did you put in TODAY?

70%…?

90%…?

110%…?

140…%?

Most people are living day-to-day giving out somewhere between 40%-70% of what they’re actually capable of. We wake up slow, we start slow, we move slow, we do a thing or two… and we say, “Tomorrow I’ll feel better. Tomorrow I’ll get a good start and things will just go. Tomorrow will be different

But this is a slow poison on the mind. When people do this, they are already setting the trap for their own failure because the truth is, there is no perfect start. There is no perfect time, perfect feeling, perfect level of energy, perfect level of motivation…. There is no aligning of the stars…

All that there is, is what you’ve done today. That’s it. What are you doing today, right now, that puts you ahead of everyone else? Ahead of everyone else that is fighting for that same dream.

If you think you’re the only person out there that wants what you want, you’re wrong.

While you’re thinking about doing what you want to do, other people are already out there getting theirs. Real winners are out there working and fighting for that 110%, that 140% every. single. day. And you’re still waiting for the perfect moment to even start.

Stop waiting for the right moment. The right moment is now. The moment is right now to go give 140% to what you’re after and what you want.

So ask yourself…

What have you done today?

How to Get More Out of Everything

How many people have woken up on a Monday before work and thought, “Ugh… here we go…” How many people have looked in the mirror and thought, “Ugh… why can’t I just look like them…” How many people have looked at their partner and thought, “Ugh… why can’t you be a better husband/wife…” How many people have taken their kids somewhere and thought, “Ugh… why can’t you kids just be good…

It happens all the time, in all facets of life. We’re dealt a shitty hand and no matter what we do, things just don’t seem to ever get better. We’re stuck in a job we’re unhappy with. We can’t see how some people are so blessed to be skinny and in shape while the rest of us are cursed with extra weight. We’re stuck in a relationship with a partner that doesn’t deserve us or we’re unlucky enough to have kids that just won’t listen.

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And no matter what we try, these situations never seem to improve. Our job throws us another curveball each week just piling it on. Then we’re so burnt out and exhausted from the day we’ve only got enough time to get dinner and take a few minutes to rest at night. Our partner can’t seem to understand how rough our day is and our kids can’t keep quiet long enough so we can just get a minute to clear our minds.

It feels as if everything is constantly acting against us.

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The truth is…

You’re getting out of life, exactly what you’re putting in.

And for some people, that’s a tough pill to swallow. For some, they’ll read that and instantly say, “Bullshit! I bust my ass everyday” or “I try all the time with my husband/wife/kids” but I’m here to tell you, it’s not enough.

It really does not matter what you think about the job you’re doing and how well you think you’re performing. It really does not matter what you think about how good of a job you’re doing.

What matters is the results. So ask yourself, has what you’ve done worked? Hmm? Has, “busting your ass” worked for you?” Has, “trying all the time” worked with your husband/wife/kids? Have you achieved results?

The reason you haven’t achieved results is because you haven’t put in enough. It’s that straight forward. If you want to stop waking up on Monday and feeling like, “Ugh…” then you need to put more into your job. You need to go up in there, sit down, and be the most bad ass employee in that place. Get shit done, go the extra mile, help other people out, and flat out be a boss. Try it. Do it for one day and tell me how you feel.

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Can’t seem to lose your weight or get in shape? Put more into your diet and exercise. MAKE TIME to do it. Start meal prepping, start walking, start exercising, put more into it. Do it for one day and tell me how you feel.

Stuck feeling like your partner in your relationship isn’t acting right? Maybe you feel like they’re not trying hard enough or at all? Maybe you feel like your relationship has gone stale. PUT MORE INTO IT. MAKE TIME for them. Love them. Even if they don’t return that love. Love them anyways. Are you with them only because they love you? Or are you with them because you love them? Do it for one day and tell me how you feel.

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Do you feel like you’re struggling to get your kids to listen? To get them to do their homework, brush their teeth, to behave? MAKE TIME for them. Take them to the park. Sit down with them and do their homework with them. Instead of yelling at them or sighing and saying it’s just the way they are. Spend time talking to them about their behavior. Put more into it. Do it for one day and tell me how you feel.

If you’re not happy with a situation in your life it comes right down to what you’re putting into it. You get out what you put in.

If you’re not happy with what you’re getting out, then you need to be putting more in.

You Get Out What You Put In.

Find Your Why. Repeat your Why.

Why is it that accomplishing our goals and the things we know that we should do, so damn hard?

I’ve wrestled with motivation at various stages in my life. I’ve been on both extremes of the spectrum from highly motivated and engaged to “I don’t feel like doing shit today…

You see, Motivation works very much like a roller coaster and when you’re up, it’s great, but when you’re down… well it’s not so great. The problem with motivation is this roller coaster ride. It’s also the reason it’s so hard to stick to our diets, quit smoking, learn that new habit, or accomplish anything that requires great or consistent effort.

We’re constantly subjective to this wave of motivation and until we can make a change in this area, we’ll always be influenced by it. Motivation helps us get that new diet started but when things get harder, when temptation kicks in, when the workout gets tougher, that same motivation doesn’t ever seem to be enough to push us through.

And that’s exactly where our problem lies. You see our Motivation, when it first inspires us, is so strong that it’s enough to get us to initiate a change in our lives. It’s the upward ride of the roller coaster.

Maybe we had a moment where we felt unattractive with our weight or we felt guilty for not spending time with someone we love. Whatever it was, it was powerful and that motivation drove us to start that process of change…

And then after a while… a couple of days… a couple of hours… we lose that motivation. It fades away and with it goes our ability to make a change. And then the next hurdle comes in journey of change and now we don’t have nearly enough motivation to overcome this adversity.

So how do other people do it? How do great athletes do it? How do successful actors and musicians accomplish so much? How does that blogger on Instagram get up everyday and hit the gym?

Their secret, the reason they are able to overcome that next hurdle, is that they keep their motivation so high that they never ride the downward side of the roller coaster. When they step onto the road to change, for them, the ride is always up.

At first it seems hard to understand how they do this. How do they keep their motivation up? How do they keep it from coming down and avoid that roller coaster?

They have an enormous WHY. What do I mean by this? They have a situation, in their lives, a moment, a history, that is so impactful, so motivating for them, that they are able to stay at the top of their game day-after-day.

Arnold Schwarzenegger, Jim Carrey, Inquoris Johnson, Marshall Mathers, Mike Tyson… the list goes on and on and on. Each of these people are highly motivated, Extremely Motivated in their lives and the reason why is because they had difficult, rough lives first.

These challenges gave them a reason to push back and to push harder and for them, it wasn’t a roller coaster. It never was a roller coaster because everyday when they woke up, life was hard. Their motivation was right there in their faces and they had no choice but to live it. So when they grew up, they were raised in an environment that demanded they stay highly motivated to ever have a chance to survive.

How do the rest of us tap into this? How do we capture this level of motivation when not all of us are going to come from a rough background. How do we find that same motivation? The best way to do this is to answer this one simple question… Why?

Why do you want to accomplish what you are setting out to do? Why does it matter at all? Why do you care? Why, Why, Why, WHY?

And answer this question multiple times, every day. Don’t just think of one reason why. Write down your reasons why. Write down four, five, ten reasons why you want to what you want to do and then as life changes, as you grow, add to your list of why. Remove things that no longer motivate you from your list of why and replace them with new motivators.

And once you have your why’s the next step is to put them on repeat in your life. Make it so that every day, every morning, every evening, every night, you look at this list of why’s. Just like Arnold Schwarzenegger, Jim Carrey, Inquoris Johnson, Marshall Mathers, and Mike Tyson had to wake up everyday and live their reasons why, you should be doing the same.

Find your WHY. Repeat your WHY.