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Read The Bedtime Story

Parenting is an exhausting job.

From the minute you wake up, or should I say, they wake you up, to the minute you go to bed, or should I say, the minute they get out of bed for the 15th million time, you are on the clock.

From sun up, until sun down, you’re clocked in as a parent.

Oh and from what I hear, that actually never ends, by the way…



But despite all of that, and all of that work, as you get older and your kids get older, there are going to be certain things that they remember about their childhood. Just like us as adults, our kids are going to look back and remember key moments or traditions that they were exposed to in their lives.

They’ll unfortunately remember that one time you accidently embarrassed them or that one time you were too hard on them for a mistake they made.

They are going to remember that one movie that first scared them when they were little and they are going to remember that time you took them to go do that one thing that they love.

This is because memory is selective, and as our kids get older they are only going to remember certain things about their past. And those specific memories, which ever ones they are, are going to stick with them and be a basis for how they live their lives.

That may be good, or it can be bad.

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They may remember growing up and being rewarded for doing a good job and now that they are older and are starting a family, they are going to remember to reward their kids for doing a good job.

Or they may remember that you were always fighting with them and arguing with them. They may remember that you were demanding and unkind. They may remember that you were distant or always too busy…

The things that you do with your kids tend to be things they grow up and do for their kids. It’s something that can be passed down as tradition (creating traditions: The Easiest Way To Leave a Legacy), and one of the best things you can do, to set a tradition, is read to your kids before bed.

Reading to your kids has such an astounding impact on their lives, especially… I’m going to say this twice… especially in today’s world of technology.

In today’s world, reading sticks out like a sore thumb. In a world of screens where the imagery and sound is being provided for you, reading and using your imagination has incredible upside.

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Not only does reading allow kids a different flavor of content to consume, it allows their own minds to think and consider what is happening in the story, in their terms. They picture the characters how they want to see them, which encourages their minds to grow on their own terms, in reflection of their own personality.

Reading to your children encourages them to be readers of their own. While many youtube videos can show you how to repair a washer, no one whose read a book will tell you that the big screen adaptation was better than the written word. No one. The book wins every time and it’s because the book is personal.

You should read to your children every night. You won’t be perfect, and you don’t have to be, but you should read to them every night. Read to them because it provides something unique in comparison to technology, read to them because it helps their minds grow, and read to them because it’s something they will remember.


Input = Output

It’s easy for us to understand that what we eat directly affects how our bodies look and function. What we put in, is what we get back out.

Where we sort of get tripped up is in realizing that this concept of consuming goes much broader than just the meals we set down in front of our faces.

Input is more than just food, it’s what we watch, what we read, who we talk to, and what we listen to.



Input is input. When we are dieting, input is easy to see. We can track the food we’re consuming, what it was, how many calories were in it, and overall if it’s good for us. We can easily relate good input to giving us good output.

When it comes to not food things we don’t seem to make the same connections. We tend to forget that the people we hang around with often times shape us. We forget that the songs we listen to put us in better moods. We forget about that connection of input = output when it comes to things that are not food.

Let’s consider a few different categories of input and look at how they can impact our lives, our health, and our happiness.

What type of social media accounts or news outlets do you use or read? What are the people talking about in those outlets? Do they talk about positive things? Things that build you up or give you confidence? Do they talk about negative things and things to be afraid of? Do they offer you new knowledge that you didn’t have prior, like a ‘How to’ video? Or do they offer you entertainment and a smile?

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Everything that we look at on the internet and on our phones is feeding us some type of content and as we watch that video clip or read that article we are consuming that content. So what do we know about consuming? Well we know input = output and that should be telling us something about what media we’re consuming.

I think there is a very strong relationship to the type of content we consume and the type of output we generate in the world. Sort-of… a Clockwork Orange just maybe not as extreme.

When you’re working through different things in your life and you’re trying to change a situation or change a scenario that you’re in, think about the amount of content you are consuming in regards to that change.

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Do you want to get in better shape? Then not only should you be eating well and exercising, you should be consuming fitness content in that same regard. When you’re on social media, are you following accounts that promote healthy eating and exercise? Or are you laughing at that next meme about eating cheeseburgers?

Do you want to pick up a new hobby? Then find a book on how to do that hobby and a couple of online bloggers who already do it. Most likely a few of them are already showcasing some of their work on some social media platform that you can learn from. Follow them and consume their content.

Do you want to do better with your mental health? Check what content you may already be consuming that is detrimental to your mental health. Do you read a lot of sad stories or watch content that is, by nature, depressing? Try changing up what you’re inputting into your mind set and swap those out with something a little more up beat or positive. See if that change in input doesn’t affect your output.

In most cases than not, a lot of us our products of our environments. Not by choice, but by nature. That’s not to say we can’t change who we are or even go against that nature, but rather it’s very easy for us to simply fall in line with what’s around us.

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One of the best ways to improve your situation, whether it’s a bad situation you want to make better OR a good situation you want to make the best, is to check what you are inputting into that system and understanding that it has a dramatic affect on what you’re outputting.

I’d love to share some ideas others have of how they are taking input and turning it into positive output in their lives. If you have a great source of input I’d love to hear and share it!

Some of my top sources of positive input come from a number of motivational speakers like Inky Johnson and Gary Vaynerchuck. I also love to consume the content of Ray Dalio & Stephen Covey.

What content do you consume that helps give you great output?